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[SurrealEdelweiss]

Hi guys,
so since were all girls, i need help. I have a boyfriend, and weve been together for two years. I love him, that's a fact. I hate him, that's also a fact. I hate him because he cares too much. I know this may sound weird but the thing is, he's acting like he's the girl in the relationship, asks me too many question, texts me where i am, what im doing (i know he's concerned and all but do you think this is too much?).He wants me to follow his beliefs and what he thinks is right for me. He wants to know every single detail of what im doing in my life. He humiliates me in front of many people, like when i do something not really wrong, but weird. i guess I want to stay in the relationship. but how can that be when sometimes it feels like he's ruling my life. and i never get to live mine.

[Admin]

Girl, there are things that you need to think.. refresh your mind, reflect and ask yourself...
* How healthy is your relationship with him?
* Is this the right man for you?
* Are we Happy with each other?
* Did he understand your feelings when you get hurt?
* Do you want to stay with him forever?
* Did he already changed?

Sometimes we do not know how relationship had gone our way.
Have you tried to talk him seriously.
Open up and discuss everything inside your relationship..

You must ask him what are his plans and tell yours.
What you hate and what he hate.

What did you do in 2 years?

You should clean up those floss in your relationship.
If one of you did not take the first move, then you should be the one to settle those things.

If he always do it the same, then try to move on.
If he pleases you, then tell him what he should do.
If he did not change, then let him learn from his mistakes.

Even it hurts leaving him behind, but you have to make it.
There are still many things to happen awaiting your way.

Your situation sounds weird but reality is on your hand.

If you want to stay in the relationship..
Then, do all the things that you think it will help to make your relationship healthy.

Your wheel of life is still moving,.. Go on Girl...
Pray and move on.

[SurrealEdelweiss]

thanks ate zay for replying...

he had an 8-year relationship. im his second girlfriend. At first it was fine, it was even perfect. he was so sweet, and he likes to do things that'll make me happy. after a few months, i started playing rf, because he plays rf too. he became so moody, like he'd yell at me if i do something wrong, or if i embarrass him in front of his friends. most of the time he would'nt even listen to me, like i'd say, "i want this, i like this, can i buy that?" he'd be like, "no you can't.. because of blah blah blah". Other times when we fight, even if its his fault, id always be the first one to say sorry. like he doesnt really care about what i feel.

i tried to talk to him, i told him how i really felt. that i so love him, but he should be like that to me. but he never changed. we keep fighting over the same things. we keep arguing on simple things. and even if i do what makes him happy or the "right" things for him. it still wrong for him. i even asked him, " are you treating me this way because your ex treated you that way?" and he never answered back. the thing that hurts me the most is that i have to make him say he loves me.

and finally i gave up, i gave up on him,i gave up on all the plans that i,we had, gave up on how treated me and all. he didnt even care. i was so disappointed and hurt. but i think this is whats best for us.

but thank for the advice ate zay, i guess its too late..

[Tarhata]

sis that's no longer healthy. remember we should always love our selves more than anything else.

sis zay, i think we should have a private area that's only accessible for the approved members so we can post love problems such as this and maybe some gossip.

[SurrealEdelweiss]

yeah i know.. thats why i had to let go of him.. though it hurts..

GO ON GIRL~~

[Ayumu]

sis tar is ryt maybe we can make dis topic more private.. so certified members lang pde mka access d2...... may share din ako lelz.. haha.. ska na pag private na mga ganitong topic.,.. haha...

[Mujitsu]

Yes, same as Ayumu i wish it's private as i can relate with Meia's story.

You'll be strong, I know you are. =]

[reynarefuerzo]

gurl, there are guys who really are like that but as what other gals said earlier, it would be better to move on and you're still young. there are a lot of guys out there better than him. someone who wouldn't humilates you infront of ur buddies, someone who would cherish you from head to toe...

ahryt!!?

[exmachina]

Hi guys,
so since were all girls, i need help. I have a boyfriend, and weve been together for two years. I love him, that's a fact. I hate him, that's also a fact. I hate him because he cares too much. I know this may sound weird but the thing is, he's acting like he's the girl in the relationship, asks me too many question, texts me where i am, what im doing (i know he's concerned and all but do you think this is too much?).He wants me to follow his beliefs and what he thinks is right for me. He wants to know every single detail of what im doing in my life. He humiliates me in front of many people, like when i do something not really wrong, but weird. i guess I want to stay in the relationship. but how can that be when sometimes it feels like he's ruling my life. and i never get to live mine.

ouch... weve got same situation sis... pero ako im using my heart eh. because i know he loves me and cares for me... so let it be. at least im happy with him.

[cutevenus]

Hi guys,
so since were all girls, i need help. I have a boyfriend, and weve been together for two years. I love him, that's a fact. I hate him, that's also a fact. I hate him because he cares too much. I know this may sound weird but the thing is, he's acting like he's the girl in the relationship, asks me too many question, texts me where i am, what im doing (i know he's concerned and all but do you think this is too much?).He wants me to follow his beliefs and what he thinks is right for me. He wants to know every single detail of what im doing in my life. He humiliates me in front of many people, like when i do something not really wrong, but weird. i guess I want to stay in the relationship. but how can that be when sometimes it feels like he's ruling my life. and i never get to live mine.

ouch... weve got same situation sis... pero ako im using my heart eh. because i know he loves me and cares for me... so let it be. at least im happy with him.

ako din sis, i always follow my heart aLthOugh nakakasakaL na soMetiMe but okay LanG un.. i Love Him and i'm happy when im with Him.. kaya Ok Lang..

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